Getting back out there after dating in college can be overwhelming, but these 25 tips for dating after college will help you with your dating life.
You've got your degree, have a social life, and maybe even a job already lined up. Now it's time to start thinking about the next chapter of your life which is searching for potential love interests.
The problem is that the dating world is constantly changing, so how do you keep up? Most importantly now that you're a young adult how do you navigate dating after college?
Well, the first thing is to prepare yourself, dating post grad life is different from dating in your teens. Whether you're looking for a relationship or just some casual dating, there are some tips you should know before getting into anything serious.
25 Useful Tips For Dating After College
Here are 25 useful tips for dating after college that will help you find the right person:
1. Make sure you're financially stable before dating anyone.
Before starting to date, make sure you're financially stable for a relationship. It's already stressful enough if you're living paycheck-to-paycheck every month, so just imaging the extra pressure you'll have by being in a relationship you're not financially ready for.
2. Talk to strangers - it's a great way to meet potential love interests.
Talking with strangers is one of the best ways to meet new people and potentially find a love interest.
Truth is, we're always worried about what others might think of us which is why it's never easy to talk to strangers but with a little bravery and self-confidence you'll get that first conversation going without a problem.
3. Date outside of your comfort zone.
You'll never know what's lurking outside the comfort zone until you step outside of it, so take the risk of stepping outside your comfort zone and go on a date with someone new.
4. Date more than one person - if you're okay with it.
You're still very young and there's no better time to date multiple people than right now.
Dating multiple people will give you the opportunity of discovering what you'd like and dislike in a person, so you can find your perfect match.
5. Don't give up on online dating if it doesn't work the first time.
If you try online dating but don't find someone after a couple of tries, don't give up so soon, chances are you'll eventually meet someone whose right for you.
6. Be clear about what you want in a partner.
Being clear about what you want in a partner from the start will help you weed out those who aren't right for you so you don't waste yours and theirs time.
7. But be realistic with your expectations.
Let's face it, we often set our expectations way too high and get your hopes up just to end disappointed.
Be realistic, if you aren't willing to meet their expectations don't expect much from them in return.
8. Communication is key.
Communication is key for the future of a successful relationship, you can't expect your date to know how you feel or what's going on if there isn't an open line of communication between each other.
If communication is unsuccessful from the start, reconsider dating that person because if they're not willing to be open and honest with you, then there's no chance for a future relationship.
9. Don't be afraid to tell your date what you want in a relationship.
Often times relationships don't work out because of misunderstandings on both parts so if you're not on the same page, then the best option is to end things.
10. But don't try to change your date into whom you want them to be.
You shouldn't expect your date to simply forget who they were before dating you and become the person you want them to be. Either accept them for who they are or move on!
11. Be open-minded about sex - it's only natural.
Although it might not seem important to some, for others it is, however you feel about this issue though there can be no denying its importance.
When discussing sexuality with your date make sure you both have an honest and comfortable conversation where neither feels judged for his nor her personal sexual desires.
12. Respect each other’s boundaries and opinions.
Respecting each other’s boundaries and opinions is part of building trust and respect with your date.
It means both parties will treat their date with respect and be understanding, despite the reason for their beliefs and actions.
13. But if your boundaries and opinions aren’t being respected, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.
Never let anyone make you feel like you don't deserve to be respected, always stand up for yourself.
You might want to re-think moving forward with your date, if your boundaries and opinions are not being respected.
14. Find out how they feel about commitment, marriage, and kids before getting into anything serious.
Talk to them about their feelings on relationships before you get too serious, ask how committed they are (generally), their views on marriage, if they want kids and anything else that is of importance to you when deciding whether a future relationship will work out or not.
Take time to consider all of these questions carefully to avoid making any decisions that you could regret later on in life because you feel unfulfilled in your life.
15. Get to know their family and friends.
Relationships are about getting to know each other's lives, so if you still haven't been introduced to their family and friends, if you're getting serious ask them to introduce you and get to know them.
16. Take time for yourself.
Too often we trade our personal well-being to keep our dates happy, and we put them above ourselves which leads to sadness, frustration, anger, anxiety and unfulfillment; all of which prevent you from showing up as your best self and with your full capacity.
Take time for yourself to take care of your needs, figure out what you want, learn something new that will help you grow as a person and just relax, recharge your batteries before dealing with everything else going on around you!
17. Don't force yourself to do things you don't want to do.
You have the right to say yes or no so don't let anyone guilt trip you into doing something that you're uncomfortable with just for them.
18. Don't think that your future relationship with someone will be fixed by a third party...
If while dating, you're having problems with your date, it might be best to part ways because you won't ever find the answers to problems in your relationship by talking to people who aren't involved.
If you really want to make it work with your date then talk it out between yourselves, at the end of the day, there's no one who know your relationship better than the 2 of you.
19. You have to work at a relationship.
Relationships aren't always going to be perfect and you both can't expect the other person to do all of the work, so take some initiative to start cultivating your relationship with your date.
20. Don't date someone just because they're there.
Don't be one of those people who jump into dating someone just because they don't want to be alone.
On the contrary, now might be the perfect time to figure out whom you really are and discover yourself.
21. Don't date someone that makes you miserable.
You deserve to be happy with someone who loves and cares for you, so don't date someone that makes you miserable because, chances are, it will not get better.
22. Don't rush into a relationship if it doesn't feel right.
If you don't feel a connection with the person you're dating, then don't rush into a relationship with them. You need to slow down and re-evaluate what you want in a relationship.
23. Don't force the relationship into something it isn't.
Give it time and see where things go, but don't force the relationship into something it isn't because it will get rocky, and you'll only be setting yourself up for disappointment.
24. You can always start over.
If it doesn't work with the person you were dating, there's no need to worry and freak out, you can always start over.
25. Don't settle - you deserve the best!
If someone makes no effort to spend time with you and doesn't treat you right, then move on.
Don't settle for someone who doesn't deserve you, because there will always be someone out there who will go the extra mile and do anything in their power to make you happy.
Dating after college, despite how you look at it can be a daunting task, but it's important to remember that you're not alone.
There are plenty of people out there who are looking for the same thing you are, just stay true to yourself because sooner or later you will find someone who's perfect for you.